Relationships always flit between the bitter and the sweet and it is no wonder why we come across many marriages hitting rock bottom, even before they are allowed to blossom. Keeping a marriage intact is by no means a laughing matter because maintaining good relationships is a very delicate issue, which entails great skill to keep it going.

Few couples understand the necessity of mutual love and respect when it comes to sharing a relationship. It is this ‘taking for granted’ attitude that creeps in and turns a good relationship sour within no time. It is rather shocking to find couples who were at one point swearing love to each other with stars in their eyes, now become each other’s sworn enemies. There are many questions that arise when we try to analyze such a scenario. But the art lies in finding the correct answers.

However, when couples find themselves at crossroads, the best thing they could do is, to give it some time or as the saying goes “leave it on the back burner” for awhile and tackle the situation in a more clear headed manner. Fostering bitter and villainous sentiments would widen the rift further, making reconciliation a difficult target to achieve, because it aggravates the already unstable situation.

If a couple feels that they truly love each other and desire to make a fresh start once again, it would be the first step towards bringing the magic back into their lives.

The next best thing to do is, to meet head on with each other, so that there is a free release of a gamut of pent up emotions, which would bring great relief to the couple. It is highly recommended in such a situation, that an elder be present to soften the onslaught of pain and trauma that may be experienced by the couple. This would be the most important part in the typical make or break situation, because realization sets in and the couple tries to understand what and where actually things had gone wrong.

Once this episode gets over, the pieces of the puzzle seem to fall into place like clockwork, as the couple sits with each other and figures out what is good and bad for their relationship to blossom with sweet fragrance once again. This session is more like brainstorming, where the couple speaks out their minds weighing the pros and cons, expressing their likes and dislikes and the do’s and don’ts which each prefers. The worst is over now, but it does not end here because the toughest part is in maintaining and sustaining their relationship with positivity and a very optimistic attitude. The keywords thereafter should be Love, Selflessness, Encouragement and Bonding….with a little bit of craziness now and again because after all ‘variety is the spice of life!’